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Huey Lewis & E-40.
Bay Area icons.
A few months ago I was having a debate about which word is worse, bitch or cunt. I said bitch and was alone in my opinion and I couldn’t describe why very well. Today I was thinking about it again and I realized why. Rarely is cunt used to describe women, its used to describe a woman. You would say ‘Gina is a cunt’ or maybe even ‘those cunts at work’, but generally people know they are dropping a real bomb. The way that Bill Burr describes how people look both ways before throwing out their racism these days, thats how a person would use cunt (though not Bill Burr, he throws that word out willy-nilly).
Bitch is so casual. I see it most in these contexts: a) an asshole describing a group of women at a bar/party/place that he is trying to have sex with, b) ironically, c) a guy describing weakness in another guy and most often d) on the internet where a guy is reducing whatever work a woman did to whether or not he’d fuck her. ‘She’s not that funny, but I’d fuck that bitch’, etc.
Even when that particular word is not used, thats where I associate it. I am guy who lives a middle class white life, so I’m probably not the person to write this, but in general it seems like the women I see are doing better than the men. They seem to have more hope and purpose and light. Women still make less money, but that is changing and quickly. Women graduate from college more and traditionally male-centered occupations seem to be moving past the point where there was one exceptional woman and towards it being normal for women to do comedy/direct movies/be doctors/be lawyers/etc. But whenever I feel like sexism is dying, I see that form of it all over the internet. The judgment of whether a woman is fuckable as the main basis for judgment all over the internet. Its like a plague. I know that I find myself doing it (i don’t post it, but I have that comment ring in my head). To me, that form of misogyny, which in white middle class America (from a male’s perspective, so why should I be writing this) is encapsulated by the word Bitch.
That, to me, is why bitch is a more harmful word than cunt.